The Honolulu Advertiser from Honolulu, Hawaii • 57

THE SUNDAY STAR-BULLETLN ADVERTISER March 15, 1964 D-5 Miss Mayer Engaged' To Lt. Cedric Chong Mr. and Mrs. Allan Mayer of Louisville, announce the engagement of their daughter, Barbara Jean, to 1st Lt. Cedric D.

0. Chong, son of Mrs. Kenneth M. Chong and the late Mr. Chong.

The bride-elect, who visited Honolulu last summer, will graduate in June from the University of Illinois. HER FIANCE is an alumnus of Roosevelt High School and the University of Hawaii where he majored in engineering. He is a member of Peng Hui fraternity. Currently he is stationed at Chanute Air Force Base in Illinois. The wedding will take place July 4 in RItgw Photo BARBARA MAYER Miss Andresen rr-r' Is Bride-Elect Mr.

and Mrs. Edwin B. Andresen of Kailua announce the engagement of their daughter, Matilda to Ronald C. Hindbaugh, son of Mr. and Mrs.

Floyd C. Hindbaugh of Kalama- loo, Mich. THE BRIDE-ELECT was graduated from Kailua High School and is attending Western Michigan University, studying occupational therapy. Her fiance, a graduate of Ferris State College at Big Rapids, is now teaching at Plainwell, Mich. A June wedding is planned in the temple of MATILDA ANDRESEN the Church of Jesus Christ of the Latter Day Saints at Idaho Falls, Idaho.

111 DEAR ANN: A great many readers were furious because you advised a wife to "forgive and forget" when she learned her husband had been unfaithful. I'm on your side, Ann. Your advice was, as always, mature, practical and wise. Too few people understand the true nature of forgiveness. Forgiving does not mean the offender goes free.

He often suffers untold tortures. Obviously, all of us make mistakes. Each of us knows the warmth that fills our hearts, and the deep sense of gratitude when we are forgiven. Forgiveness can spell the difference between a life of bitterness and hate and a life of compassion and understanding. When we are forgiven by those we have wronged we are then able to forgive those who wrong us.

Your column teaches this beautiful philosophy. Thank you for it. NO STRANGER TO TROUBLE DEAR NO STRANGER: I can only add this to your thoughtful letter: Forgiveness can be our most meaningful gift Presented with an open hand and an understanding heart, it cannot be bought at any price yet it costs nothing. DEAR ANN: Am I turning into an old sour-puss? I'm a male, 50, pleasant but not chummy. I'm what you might call a good Joe, but a mind-your-own-business type.

I work in an office that has several rows of desks. There is a goodly amount of walking around in our office to and from the wash rooms, to the coffee machine, the coke machine, the water cooler, files, dictionary, the telephone directory and just plain walking. My desk is on the aisle in the center of the room, so I get the traffic coming and going. Everyone who walks by manages to do a little something. One fellow will snap my suspenders, another will drop a paper clip down my neck, somebody else will tweek my cheek or muss my hair.

One big galoot always gives me a crack on the back. These things irritate me. Am I getting crotchety? Should I speak up and tell people to keep their hands off? Answer soon because I just got my ear pulled by a little snip who is young enough to be my granddaugh-ter. SITTING DUCK DEAR DUCKY: Aw c'mon now these pesky little maneuvers are really signs of affection. The time to become unhappy is when people pass your desk day after day and ignore you.

DEAR ANN: I am an attractive young woman in my early twenties and I live in a city located near a military installation. Most of the girls in my social crowd enjoy dating men in the service, even though the hometown boys have made it plain that they don't like it Recently I met a very nice young man and I would like to go out with him, but there is one serious drawback. He is not an officer. My girl friends tell me the officers will not take me out if they learn I am dating an enlisted man. This might also jeopardize my social standing with the girls.

Please print my letter and your advice because we all read your column and regard your advice highly. M.J.S. (OF LA.) DEAR M.J.S.: Any gal who would refuse to date a "very nice young man" because he has no brass or braid is a brass-plated dumbbell. A girl with such cockeyed values could deprive herself of the friendship of an extraordinary fellow. Reading between the lines, you sound salvageable so I hope it doesn't happen to you, Toots.

If it does, it'll serve you right Teen- Ann Landers frank, informative new book, Agers And Sex" is at your book store. i.