Honolulu Star-Bulletin from Honolulu, Hawaii • 14

10 Honolulu Star-Bulletin Friday, May 1, 1964 Wai-Kahu B.P.W. Officers Installed president; Mrs. Elaine Ko- Lei Day Is May Day Napiia's Notebook Artificial Wreath Is Prized as Memorial Dear Readers: It is Lei the leis from the forests and enough to be the happy once again and I am were the forerunners of all cipients of the red Lehua example, flowers aire considered disrespectful. To Orthodox Jews they are the symbol of joy. When the family does not want flowers at the funeral I often send them a week or so after the funeral to the family to- the mother in the case of a child, to the wife in the case of a husband.

Ta a widower I may send a plant. On my card I write nothing to make these flowers seem like funeral flowers. They are meant to comfort the living. Something like "With affection" or "We are thinking of you" is enough. sending flowers to the funeral itself.

I often follow this custom and find it greatly appreciated by my friends especially in cases where great masses of flowers may be expected at the funeral. Funeral Flowers Dear Miss Vanderbilt: When. at a death a family specifies "No flowers," do you think they mean it and should you respect their wishes or just send flowers, anyway? G. Columbus, Georgia. They mean it At Orthodox Jewish funerals, for prompted to tell you the stories of Hawaii's leis as told to me by my great-grand-aunt Kaaoaolahilahi-okeohokalole Kailikini.

She lived In a rambling country house on a hill overlooking the Island of Maui in that part of Kohala, Hawaii, known to historians as Hikapoloa and more specifically as Kokoiki. It is an area so steeped in ancient Hawaiian lore that she deem-it her duty to keep her moo-punas (grandchildren) properly informed about their heritage. I'll admit my interest in things ancient was without enthusiasm at that time. I. have since dedicated my life to keeping not only my own family properly informed removed, and the birds re-about our heritage but others jleased.

I a UCMK By ABIGAIL Do They or Don't They? Dear Abby: That person who wanted to know if blondes really had more fun obviously wasn't a blonde or she would have known better. People do turn around of Hawaii, pink Lokelani from Maui, yellow Ilima from Oahu, fragrant Moki-hana from Kauai, feathery Kukui blossoms from Molo-kai, orange Kaunaoa from Lanai, Pupu shells from Ni-ihau, Hinahina (gray moss) from Kahoolawe. Kupuna also remonstrated with each of her grandchildren to remember and cherish the gifts of affection and high esteem expressed in the gift of a lei. She explained that to the giver of the lei his gift was one way of expressing his love and affection for the recipient. The Hawaiians cherish gifts fashioned from Mother Nature's abundant and lush fern forests.

To them it is the essence of aloha. a t-grandmother remembered her first kukui nut lei. She told of the time and work involved in the preparation of the nuts prior to the actual stringing. She mentioned too the ingenious method of burying the kukui nuts in mud for six months to a year to achieve the rich, ebony patina of the beautiful leis of kukui worn proudly by Hawaiian women. In her day, a kukui lei was a badge of distinction.

IN THE MATTER of names, there are babies who carry names in which the lei is lovingly entwined in meaningful interpretation. To those families unable to gain possession of a genuine Mamo feather lei, considered the choicest of feather leis, the next best thing was to give a newborn child the name Kuuleihulumamo (my mamo feather lei). LeUani, is perhaps the most popular and most famous of all lei names. It means wreath of heaven. In the tradition of the Hawaii of her era, my great-grandmother exemplified the pride of her race.

For today, and every future Lei Day, and on occasions demanding a gift of true Hawaiian love, give a lei of ferns, flowers, seeds, feathers, or a combination of them. If you are the recipient of a lei, wear it proudly, for you are indeed loved. Don't and look at blondes because they are more striking than girls with any other color hair. But don't assume that just because blondes are stared at more it is to their advantage. Other women are jealous of blondes.

This is a fact. And when people are jealous of you. it can be rough. How many blondes ever win beauty contests? Not verv many. Whv? Because if the By Amy Vanderbilt Dear Miss Vanderbilt: I am recording secretary for the Ladies' Auxiliary of our local fire company and the group is in quite an uproar due to an oversight One of our members passed away recently.

As I did not know of this, I did not send a sympathy card to the family or flowers to the funeral home. Some of the ladies claimed they were so em barrassed that a motion was made to place an artificial wreath on the grave. It seems that the husband appreciated this more than flowers either at the funeral home or in his own home. His own words were "The grave would be bare by now and the wreath will be there for months." "Now another member has died and a majority again wants to wait until the flowers are removed, from the grave and again place an artificial wreath. I was told to write on the bottom of a sympathy card that a memorial wreath would be placed on the grave after i'owers are removed.

Is ihis entire practice proper? S.G., Fall River, Massachusetts. I do not like to see printed sympathy cards sent, but it would be quite proper for you to say in a brief note of sympathy that the auxiliary is placing a memorial wreath on the grave and why, just as you have explained it to me. As an alternative, you may certainly rd cut flowers, arranget not, or a plant to dv dower or the family ratnr than give a lei away that you have just received, especially in the presence of the giver. This is unforgiveable. It is most certainly a breach of Hawaiian Aloha.

Napua. PHONE 997-941 SPECIAl $1A00 KAHULUI, Maui Mrs. Velma Santos was recently installed as president of the Wai-Kahu Business and Professional Women's Club of Maui. Other officers are Miss Hattie Lopes, first vice- tABEL IDEA Vse different colored la- bels for different foods when packaging them for your home freezer, so you can identify them at a glance. from $7S Pin-On Pieces from 1 vi1.

hi mimggg Jl iHlllSlllIsM ll if 5 I I I I wci moda, second vice president; Miss Evelyn Kawachi, recording secretary; Mrs. Edna Kong, corresponding secretary; and Mrs. Barbara Kusuda, treasurer. Mrs. Santos will attend the B.

P. W. State Conven- tion at the Hawaiian Village Hotel, Honolulu, on May 15 to 17. Official Maui dele- gates are Miss Lopes and Mrs. Kusuda, with Miss Ka wachi as alternate.

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30-5(1 I 1 leis today. The lei hulu reserved for-those of highborn rank were fashioned from feathers of the rare Mamo, Oo, Apa-pane, Elepaio and other birds found in the Hawaiian chain. She described in detail the snares set for the birds. Sticky substances were placed on the low shrubbery and calls of each bird perfected to further lure them to the bait. It was Kapu forbidden) to destroy the birds, iso means were contrived to attract the birds to the Ibushes and when they were temporarily inconvenienced by the sticky bait, nets were thrown over the birds, the feathers needed for the leis Each of the eight majur islands in the Hawaiian chain jealously proclaim their island lei as the most beautiful and rightfully so.

The leis are unusual, beautiful, unmatched in historical significance. They are worn proudly by those fortunate a i I a judge chose a blonde, when he got home, his wife would kill him. Thank you. RUNNER-UP (BLONDE) Dear Abby: That person who wrote in to say that blondes had more fun was badly mistaken. I was a natural blonde, and I had those funny white eyelashes and eyebrows to go with it.

Believe me. I wasn't having very much fun. Last year I decided to do something about it. I had my hair, eyebrows, and eyelashes dyed black! It changed my whole personality. I now look vivid and alive! My skin is very fair and since I have become a brunette, people have told me that they have never seen bluer eyes.

(No one even noticed my eyes wi.en I was a blonde.) Here is one blonde who wouldn't go back to being a blonde for anything! TRANSFORMED Dear Abby: Why do people pick on blondes? When they want to slam somebody, they say, "Dumb blonde" or "Dizzy blonde." Even just plain "blonde" implies that a girl is kind of cheap. I have noticed that the flashy, loud blondes that give all blondes a bad name sre not really blondes at all; they are who have decided to become blondes. Please give us blondes a break, Abby, and print this. TWO NATURAL BLONDES Dear Blondes: The facts should be plain enough to anyone who wants to get to the root of the matter. Dear Abby: That letter about blondes struck close to home with me because the man I'm married to has a "thing" about blondes.

Not just any kind of blonde, but platinum blondes. When Solly met me, 29 years ago, I was a platinum blonde. He claims that's why he fell for me. My hair would probably be a salt and pepper mixture I let it go natural because I'm naturally brownish, tu ning gray. It is a lot of trouble to keep it touched up and I would love to quit, but every time I mention it, my Solly has a fit.

He says if I don't stay blonde, he'll find himself another blonde. So I figure if he has to have a blonde in his life, it is going to be me. "BLONDIE" Get it off your chest For a personal, unpublished reply, write to ABBY, Box 3365, Beverly Hills, California 90212. Enclose a stamped, self-addressed envelope. For Abby's booklet, "How To Have A Lovely Wedding," send 50 cents to Abby, Box 3365, Beverly Hills California 90212.

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